Monthly Archives: July 2014

Abi

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Lying in bed right now, I find myself thinking about life before my husband. Yes, that sounds weird when I write it. Lol. Being that I’m pregnant again, walhamdulillah, I’m thinking back to a time of being very lost in my first pregnancy. My first child was born before I embraced Islam. I was 17 and head strong. When I found out I was pregnant, I was pressured to get an abortion for many reasons. I haven’t graduated high school yet, how could I afford a child, and that her father would not be there to help. In the end, I listened to my heart and decided against an abortion. Me, knowing how stubborn I was, knew that I would graduate no matter what, and that I would work 3 jobs if that meant my daughter being taken care of. I also knew I would be doing it alone, without her father and I was very ok with that, in fact I expected it.
I never knew my father, most of my cousins didn’t know their fathers or had minimal contact with them. So, growing up this was quite normal to me. As I got older most of my friends were in the same boat when it came to dads. So the thought of raising my daughter alone didn’t phase me. I had the mentality of, ‘kids don’t need fathers. Moms are the mother and father.’ And this is how it was when she was born. I was mom and dad. Then I got married.
To see the way my daughter loved to be around my husband was, and still is, one of the most attracting things about him. Then I got pregnant was my first son. To have the father there throughout the pregnancy, to have him hold your hand through labor, and see the love in his eyes when he first lays them on his child, changed my whole way of thinking. I realized how much a father truly means in a child’s life. How it impacts a child to have the love of both his parents. I now know the warmth I feel when my children have the opportunity to scream ‘ABI’ when my husband walks through the door.
I didn’t have a father,or even good male role models, in my life growing up and only now that I’m older, can I see the damage that caused throughout my younger years. I pray my children never have to know that feeling. Even though my daughter knows my husband is not her real father, that’s Abi to her and that’s all that matters. And I’m mot saying everyone should be in their child’s life, as some people have told me about my daughter’s father, because I know some men just simply don’t deserve to even be called a father. I’m writing this to help change some girl’s mind, who’s also grown up without a father and thinks it’s ok. Or for some man who hasn’t taken the opportunity to be in there child’s life. Be a part of your child’s life amd not only be a part of it, but BETTER it.
Ok, going to sleep. Good night.

Guess What

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I’m sorry I haven’t written a post in a few days. We might be moving this week insha Allah, so I’ve been trying to pack and organize. and I also found out……… I’m pregnant. Alhamdulillah. Yayyyyyyyyyy.

Ramadan Day Twenty Five Ayat

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Surah Az Zukhruf: 67- 73

Friends on that Day will be foes one to another except Al-Muttaqun.
(It will be said to the true believers of Islamic Monotheism): My worshippers! No fear shall be on you this Day, nor shall you grieve,
Who believed in Our Ayat and were Muslims.
Enter Paradise, you and your wives, in happiness.
Trays of gold and cups will be passed round them, therein all that the one’s inner-selves could desire, all that the eyes could delight in, and you will abide therein forever.
This is the Paradise which you have been made to inherit because of your deeds which you used to do.
Therein for you will be fruits in plenty, of which you will eat.

Ramadan Day Twenty Four Ayat

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Surah Az Zumar: 53

Say: “O ‘Ibadi who have transgressed against themselves! Despair not of the Mercy of Allah, verily Allah forgives all sins. Truly, He is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.

Surah Ghafir: 41- 42

“And O my people! How is it that I call you to salvation while you call me to the Fire!
“You invite me to disbelieve in Allah, and to join partners in worship with Him; of which I have no knowledge, and I invite you to the All-Mighty, the Oft-Forgiving!

Surah Fussilat: 19- 23

And (remember) the Day that the enemies of Allah will be gathered to the Fire, so they will be driven.
Till, when they reach it , their hearing and their eyes, and their skins will testify against them as to what they used to do.
And they will say to their skins, “Why do you testify against us?” They will say: “Allah has caused us to speak, as He causes all things to speak, and He created you the first time, and to Him you are made to return.”
And you have not been hiding against yourselves, lest your ears, and your eyes, and your skins testify against you, but you thought that Allah knew not much of what you were doing.
And that thought of yours which you thought about your Lord, has brought you to destruction, and you have become of those utterly lost!

Ramadan Day Twenty Two Ayat

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Surah Al Ahzab: 35- 36

Verily, the Muslims men and women, the believers men and women, the men and the women who are obedient, the men and women who are truthful, the men and the women who are patient, the men and the women who are humble, the men and the women who give Sadaqat, the men and the women who observe Saum, the men and the women who guard their chastity and the men and the women who remember Allah much with their hearts and tongues. Allah has prepared for them forgiveness and a great reward.
It is not for a believer, man or woman, when Allah and His Messenger have decreed a matter that they should have any option in their decision. And whoever disobeys Allah and His Messenger, he has indeed strayed into a plain error.

Surah Al Ahzab: 59

O Prophet! Tell your wives and your daughters and the women of the believers to draw their cloaks all over their bodies. That will be better that they should be known so as not to be annoyed. And Allah is Ever OftForgiving, Most Merciful.

Ramadan Day Twenty One Ayat

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Surah Luqman: 22

And whosoever submits his face to Allah, while he is a Muhsin, then he has grasped the most trustworthy hand-hold. And to Allah return all matters for decision.

Surah Luqman: 33

O mankind! Be afraid of your Lord, and fear a Day when no father can avail aught for his son, nor a son avail aught for his father. Verily, the Promise of Allah is true, let not then this present life deceive you, nor let the chief deceiver deceive you about Allah.

Surah Al Ahzab: 21

Indeed in the Messenger of Allah you have a good example to follow for him who hopes for Allah and the Last Day and remembers Allah much.

Ramadan Day Twenty Ayat

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I made a mistake in saying the last ten nights of Ramadan was starting Thursday night. I found out in jumu’ah yesterday that the last ten nights are counted as if there will be 30 days of Ramadan, making Friday night the first of the last ten nights of Ramadan. May Allah forgive me for misleading anyone in this affair. Ameen.

Surah An Naml: 89- 90

Whoever brings a good deed, will have better than its worth, and they will be safe from the terror on that Day.
And whoever brings an evil, they will be cast down on their faces in the Fire. “Are you being recompensed anything except what you used to do?”

Surah Al Qasas: 71- 72

Say: “Tell me! If Allah made night continuous for you till the Day of Resurrection, who is an ilah besides Allah who could bring you light? Will you not then hear?”
Say: “Tell me! If Allah made day continuous for you till the Day of Resurrection, who is an ilah besides Allah who could bring you night wherein you rest? Will you not then see?”

Surah Al Ankabut: 2- 7

Do people think that they will be left alone because they say: “We believe,” and will not be tested.
And We indeed tested those who were before them. And Allah will certainly make known those who are true, and will certainly make known those who are liars,.
Or those who do evil deeds think that they can outstrip Us? Evil is that which they judge!
Whoever hopes for the Meeting with Allah, then Allah’s Term is surely coming. and He is the All-Hearer, the All-Knower.
And whosoever strives, he strives only for himself. Verily, Allah is free of all wants from the ‘Alameen.
Those who believe, and do righteous good deeds, surely, We shall expiate from them their evil deeds and shall reward them according to the best of that which they used to do.

Ramadan Day Nineteen

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Since tonight will be the 1st of the last ten days of Ramadan insha Allah, I thought I would post some reminders about Laylatul Qadr.

Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: The Prophet, sal Allahu alayhi wa salaam, said, “Whosoever performs Qiyam during Laylat-ul-Qadr, with Faith and being hopeful of Allah’s reward, will have his former sins forgiven.”
Al-Bukhari and Muslim

Abu Huraira reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Approaching you is the month of Ramadan, a blessed month in which Allah the Exalted has made it an obligation upon you to fast; in it the gates of the heavens are opened, and in it the gates of Hellfire are closed, and in it the devils are chained. Allah has made a night in it that is better than a thousand months, so whoever is deprived of it is truly deprived.”
Ahmad

Aisha reported: The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, would exert himself in worship during the last ten nights of Ramadan more so than any other time.
Muslim

1195. `Aishah (May Allah be pleased with her) reported: I asked: “O Messenger of Allah! If I realize Laylat-ul-Qadr, what should I supplicate in it?” He, Sal Allahu alayhi wa salaam, replied, “You should supplicate: Allahumma innaka `afuwwun, tuhibbul-`afwa, fa`fu `anni (O Allah, You are Most Forgiving, and You love forgiveness; so forgive me).”
At-Tirmidhi