Repentance

As I started offering Isha last night, I thought about the Majesty of the One I was praying to. A wave of grief came over me as I then thought of all the sins and evil deeds I had brought upon myself. And how badly I need Allah’s Forgiveness and how badly I need to avoid His punishment and wrath. So I’m writing firstly as a reminder to myself and then a reminder to my sisters and brothers in Islam, to repent before it’s too late. Besides shirk, there is no sin Allah will not forgive as He says: ”

Verily, Allah forgives not that partners should be set up with him in worship, but He forgives except that (anything else) to whom He pleases,….” (4:48)

“O you who believe! Turn in sincere repentance to Allah.”

(66:8)

We should all be asking Allah for forgiveness and repenting many times each day.

Abu Hurayra said, “I heard the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, say, ‘By Allah, I ask Allah’s forgiveness and turn towards Him in repentance more than seventy times a day.”

The best of mankind asked for forgiveness 70 times a day, so what should be the case for you and I?

And remember that  believer should never, ever despair from being forgiven.

Say: “O ‘Ibadi (My slaves) who have transgressed against themselves (by committing evil deeds and sins)! Despair not of the Mercy of Allah, verily Allah forgives all sins. Truly, He is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful. (39:53)

From Abu Musa ‘Abdullah ibn Qays al-Ash’ari is that the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, “Allah Almighty will stretch out His hand during the night, turning towards the one who did wrong during the day, and stretch out His hand during the day, turning towards the one who did wrong during the night, until the day the sun rises from the place it set.”

Conditions of Repentance

So nextly I would like to list the conditions of repentance:

1) Stop committing the sin immediately for whatever you feel unable to do today, you will feel weaker to do tomorrow.

2) Feel regret for that sin (or sins).

3) Have a firm resolve not to retutn to that sin.

And if you wronged someone else with your sin (like stealing from someone or dishonoring someone) there is an extra condition: returning that person’s right to them.

And do not delay your epentance. In the words of Abu Muhammad Al- Maghrabi, “Death is certain, tomorrow is not.”

Start with counseling your soul. Reminding your soul daily that it will see all of its deeds on the Day of Resurrection. Asking your soul why it insists of following in the footsteps of shaytan?

Talk to yourself and say to it: Why don’t you start reforming yourself? It is only your enemy and my enemy who makes you so careless. What holds you back fromtaking an initiative? Why do you keep postponing the self-reform? Is it not simply because you are too weak to oppose your desires? Stop deceiving yourself, there will never come a day when you find yourself having an aversion towards the pleasures of life, such a day will not br created by Allah, In fact, the way to Paradise is surrounded with adversities, whereas Hell is surrounded with pleasures.

Get rid of bad company. A salaf said, “Beware of evil peoples’ company, for you will adopt their nature, without taking any notice.” Replace your bad company with good  believers. Part with everything that would remind you and tempt you back to your sin. Repentance requires giving up all prohibited actions, and observing Allah’s commands.

Start a new chapter of obedience to Allah and stand firm upon this and ask Allah to make it easy to do what is pleasing to Hm and He will respond to your du’a. Censure your soul often and remind yourself of your sins. Replace an evil deed with a good deed. Read Qur’an, pray sunnah prayers, give charity. Remind yourself of the pleasures of Paradise and the horrors of the Hell-Fire. Remind yourself of your obligation to your Lord and the rights He has upon His slaves. Start anew and don’t look except to remeber your regret and to remember the shame and grief you felt from your transgressions.

*Much of what I’ve written was advice from “HowDo I Turn To Allah” by Sheikh Muhammad Hussain Yaqub and I encourage everyone to read this book as I found it very encouraging and beneficial.

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Q&A on Hijab With Sheikh Al- Albaani

The Jilbaab and What can Substitue it
The following excerpt was taken from the book “Masaa’il Nisaa’iyyah Mukhtaarah min Fiqh al-‘Alaamah Al-Albaanee” [Selected Women’s Issues from the Fiqh of Imaam Al-Albaanee (pg 125 – 131)]. This book contains a collection of Al-Albaanee’ s  opinions on various issues related to women transcribed from his books,  recorded lessons and lectures.
Shaikh Al-Albaanee was asked the following question in a recorded talk:
We would like more details on the definition of a jilbaab, since you have  stated that your view on the jilbaab is that it is a garment that covers the body from the head to the feet. However, we have come across a  rather large difference of opinion in the language books concerning  this. Amongst the linguists are those who say it is a large gown, while  others say it is a khimaar. And others hold the same view you mentioned, Shaikh. So we would like a further elaboration, may Allaah reward you,  as well as which one is the strongest opinion.”
The  Shaikh responded to the questioner: “I’m sorry but I’m having difficulty understanding the part where you said that some people hold the jilbaab to be the khimaar. What is the khimaar that you are referring to when  you say that they consider it to be the jilbaab? This is because it is  well-known that the khimaar is a head-covering and not an ample garment  that covers a woman’s entire body from her head to her feet. So who is  it that claims that the jilbaab is a khimaar from what you know,  according to what I mentioned? This is truly a very strange thing. Who  said this?!”
The questioner said: “This is mentioned in the book  Lisaan-ul-‘Arab, where it states that such a definition for it is held  by some people.”
The Shaikh said: “It states that the jilbaab is a khimaar?”
The questioner said: “Yes.”
So the Shaikh replied: “It is not possible to say this because as you know there are two ayahs in the Qur’aan – one ayah that orders women to wear the jilbaab while the other orders them to put on the khimaar. It is  not possible to say that both ayahs contain a repetition of the same  meaning, thus the jilbaab would be the khimaar, while the khimaar would  be the jilbaab. Rather, both of these terms – the jillbaab and the  khimaar – have their own respective meanings that are distinct from one  another.
You know, for example, that when a woman is at home and  she gets up to pray her obligatory prayers, for the most part, she is  normally at home with her hair uncovered. So she just places her khimaar over her head. The Prophet (sallAllaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) said: ‘Allaah does not accept the prayer of a mature woman unless she has a khimaar.’
What is meant here is not the jilbaab at all, but rather what is meant is  the head-covering. From the evidences that indicate this is that the  Prophet (sallAllaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) ordered us to wipe over the  turban or the khimaar or the socks.
My objective behind this  hadeeth is to show that it indicates that the khimaar is a garment that  both men and women – males and females – share in wearing.
It  cannot be understood from this, for those who understand the Arabic  language, that a man can place a jilbaab over himself! Rather, it means  that he can place a khimaar (head-covering) over himself.
So it  is permissible for a person that places a khimaar over his head to wipe  over it (when performing ablution), regardless of whether it is a man or a woman. My objective behind this discussion is to firstly confirm the  quote according to the Arabic language, and secondly if it is finally  confirmed that the quote is indeed found in Lisaan-ul-‘Arab and that it  states that the meaning of a jilbaab is held to be a khimaar, then it is sufficient proof, from what you quoted, that such a statement is weak  because of the fact that the author said: ‘It is held to mean such and  such.’ (i.e. uncertainty)
Furthermore, if we study the texts from the Book and the Sunnah, of which we already mentioned some of them, we would derive with certainty that the khimaar is not a jilbaab and nor  is the jilbaab a khimaar.
In brief, a khimaar covers less that a  jilbaab while a jilbaab has a more ample range in terms of the parts  that it covers. Also, a jilbaab is specific for only women. They were  the ones who were ordered to wear it and not men. But as for the  khimaar, then that is a garment that both men and women share in  wearing. Even though a man is not obligated to wear it, regardless, it  is a garment that both men and women partake in wearing, just like a  shirt. In the same manner that a man wears a shirt to cover his ‘awrah – which is different from the ‘awrah of a woman – so does a woman. But  her ‘awrah is ampler than the ‘awrah of a man.
This is why we  said in the book ‘The Muslim Woman’s Hijaab’ that when a Muslim woman  leaves from her home, she is obligated to do two things:
(1) To place a khimaar over her head, and (2) then to apply a jilbaab over  that, thus going out dressed with the khimaar and the jilbaab. So when a woman goes out of her home, one garment does not suffice without the  other – a woman must combine between both the khimaar and the jilbaab.  You are aware of the Qur’anic verse related to the khimaar in which  Allaah says: ‘And (tell them) to draw their khumur (veils) over their  bosoms.’ [Surah An-Noor: 31] Drawing a  garment close to the bosom cannot be achieved with a jilbaab. This can  only be achieved with a khimaar, since it is possible to wrap it. But as for the jilbaab, you know that it cannot be wrapped around the chest or on the neck. You can see here how the men wrap their khimaars and how  they affix them to their necks. So due to this, what has been  particularized here is the khimaar and not the jilaab. When a woman goes out from her house, she is obligated to place a khimaar over her head  and to wrap it over her neck and her chest. This is since a jilbaab does not correspond in her attempt to achieve this comprehensive covering  since it is ample and long whereas the khimaar is ample and short. So  each of these garments has its own specific effect in fulfilling what a  woman is obligated to cover. This is my response to what you have asked. If there is anything left that I have not covered in my discussion,  then remind me of it.”
The questioner asked: “So then I  understand from this that the jilbaab is not the wide gown that women  wear today, here (in this country) for example, from the neck to the  feet?”
The Shaikh responded: “No, not at all. This is not a  jilbaab. However, this leads us to elaborate further on discussing what  is related to the jilbaab. As we stated before, according to the  language, a jilbaab is not a garment like that which is known as the  balto. So what needs to be clarified now is:
The command directed towards women, particularly with regard to wearing the jilbaab, is not  an obligatory act of worship which has a meaning that we can’t  comprehend. Rather, on the contrary, it does have a meaning we can  understand. And the meaning that is derived from it, which we indicated  previously, is to achieve the covering that a woman must abide by.
So if, for example, a woman wears two garments or she makes the jilbaab  into two pieces – one upper piece and one lower piece – and both of  these pieces fulfill the objective of the jilbaab, which has been  mentioned in the Qur’aan, at this point, even though we don’t refer to  these two pieces as a jilbaab from a linguistic standpoint, we hold that it still fulfills the desired objective of the command to wear the  jilbaab from a religious perspective.
There used to be found in  Syria up to recently, and there still continues to be found in some  practicing women that stick to the Religion, a garment called  Malaa’at-uz- Zamm. Have you heard anything about this during your  lifetime?”
The questioner replied: “We have something called a Malaa’ah (cloak).”
The Shaikh said: “No, I said Malaa’at-uz- Zamm.”
The questioner replied: “No, not with this term. We say Malaa’ah.”
The Shaikh said: “This is an Arabic term. The point is that this garment  which we have with us in Syria consists of two pieces. The first piece  is a skirt known as a tannoorah – are you familiar with this word?”
The questioner said: Yes.”
The Shaikh said: “A tannoorah is a skirt that is affixed to the waist with an elastic strap. So naturally it is wide and ample.
A woman wears this from here, thus covering the entire lower part of her  body. Then over this tannoorah, which is called a kharraatah (skirt) in  Syria, is placed the upper part of the garment, which is placed over the head and which a woman uses to cover her head, shoulders, sides, hips  and even the belt strap that is tightened around the waist by this  tannoorah or this kharraatah. No part of this skirt’s waist-strap is  visible since it goes under it. Is the image clear?”
The questioner replied: “Yes.”
The Shaikh continued: “Amongst us here, they call this garment Malaayat-uz- Zamm (or Malaa’at-uz- Zamm), since the skirt is strapped at the waist  with a plastic waistband. So if you have grasped a perception of this  dress with us, then the point that I am trying to make is that even  though this cloak-like garment is not a jilbaab (linguistically) , it  still fulfills the obligation of a jilbaab, which consists of covering  the body completely. Is this clear to you?”
The questioner said: “Yes.”
The Shaikh said: “If the matter is clear, then we see that we are not  obligated to adhere to the literal wording of the jilbaab, but rather to its end-result, objective and goal. Now I will go back to this ‘balto’  which I talked about previously, which the Muslim women wear today and  which is of various types. It may be produced in long sizes for some of  the practicing women reaching up to their feet. However, this is not a  jilbaab. In spite of this, it is still not like the Malaa’at-uz- Zamm  since it does not cover the head and what it consist of, for example.  But what does the woman do today? She wraps a garment known as the  esharp around her head – is this term known to you?”
The questioner answered: “Yes.”
The Shaikh said: “A small khimaar (i.e. the esharp) that is fastened to the head but which exposes parts of the forehead and temple and which also  exposes parts of the neck since it is small in size, naturally does not  fulfill the objective of a jilbaab according to its proper definition.  The objective of a jilbaab is as we have discussed concerning the  Malaayat-uz- Zamm. Is this clear? So let’s take the example of this  woman who is wearing this balto – what would you call this?”
The questioner[1] said: “We call it a Hijaab.”
The Shaikh said: “No, this is wrong. The point is that if a woman wears  this type of ‘Hijaab’ then places a khimaar over her head, then there  must be a Hijaab, i.e. jilbaab placed over this khimaar. We have stated  that there are two verses in the Qur’aan. This jilbaab may be divided  into parts as we stated before when we discussed the Malaayat-uz- Zamm.
So therefore, if a woman wears that garment which you call a Hijaab and  then places a valid khimaar over her head and not that which is known as the ‘esharp’, then places over this khimaar a partial garment that  covers half of her body, such as one that covers her shoulders and  hands, at this point, this becomes valid and acceptable according to the Religion.” [2]

Hadith of the Day- Hell-Fire

Narrated Abu Hurairah: “I heard Allah’s Messanger s.a.w. saying, ‘My example and the example of the people is that of a man who made a fire, and when it lighted what was around it, moths and other insects started falling into the fire. The man tried his best to prevent them from falling into the fire, but they overpowered him and rushed into the fire.’ The Prophet s.a.w. added, ‘Similarly, I take hold of the knots at your waist belts to prevent you from falling into the Fire, but you insist on falling into it.'”

Sahih Al- Bukhari

Quote of the Day- Good Deeds

The doing of good was mentioned when some people were sitting with Imam Ahmad. And it was said that it is considered less than gaining knowledge. So he replied to them, “Be quiet! Does one intend through gaining knowledge anything else then what it enables of the doing of good?”.

The Prophet’s s.a.w. Farewell Sermon

“O People, lend me an attentive ear, for I know not whether after this year, I shall ever be amongst you again.  Therefore, listen to what I am saying to you very carefully and take these words to those who could not be present here today.

O People, just as you regard this month, this day, this city as Sacred, so regard the life and property of every Muslim as a sacred trust.  Return the goods entrusted to you to their rightful owners.  Hurt no one so that no one may hurt you.  Remember that you will indeed meet your Lord, and that He will indeed reckon your deeds.  God has forbidden you to take usury (interest), therefore all interest obligation shall henceforth be waived.  Your capital, however, is yours to keep.  You will neither inflict nor suffer any inequity.  God has Judged that there shall be no interest, and that all the interest due to Abbas ibn Abd’al Muttalib shall henceforth be waived…

Beware of Satan, for the safety of your religion.  He has lost all hope that he will ever be able to lead you astray in big things, so beware of following him in small things.

O People, it is true that you have certain rights with regard to your women, but they also have rights over you.  Remember that you have taken them as your wives only under a trust from God and with His permission.  If they abide by your right then to them belongs the right to be fed and clothed in kindness.  Do treat your women well and be kind to them for they are your partners and committed helpers.  And it is your right that they do not make friends with any one of whom you do not approve, as well as never to be unchaste.

O People, listen to me in earnest, worship God, perform your five daily prayers, fast during the month of Ramadan, and offer Zakat.  Perform Hajj if you have the means.

All mankind is from Adam and Eve.  An Arab has no superiority over a non-Arab, nor does a non-Arab have any superiority over an Arab; white has no superiority over black, nor does a black have any superiority over white; [none have superiority over another] except by piety and good action.  Learn that every Muslim is a brother to every Muslim and that the Muslims constitute one brotherhood.  Nothing shall be legitimate to a Muslim which belongs to a fellow Muslim unless it was given freely and willingly.  Do not, therefore, do injustice to yourselves.

Remember, one day you will appear before God and answer for your deeds.  So beware, do not stray from the path of righteousness after I am gone.

O People, no prophet or apostle will come after me, and no new faith will be born.  Reason well, therefore, O people, and understand words which I convey to you.  I leave behind me two things, the Quran and my example, the Sunnah, and if you follow these you will never go astray.

All those who listen to me shall pass on my words to others and those to others again; and it may be that the last ones understand my words better than those who listen to me directly.  Be my witness, O God, that I have conveyed your message to your people.”

No, My Niqab Is Not Part of the Show

Yesterday my family and I went to the circus not too far from my house. It was at a rec. center, so I must admit, I thought it would be horrible but we all enjoyed it a lot. But boy, was it awkward.

While waiting in the car while my husband got the tickets, I was giving myself a hundred reasons not to wear my niqab. The kids will be scared, everyone will stare, it’ll ruin the experience but I reminded myself of why I wear it (for the sake of Allah) and made du’a that I would have patience with others. So I flipped it down from the top of my head and ventured out the car. Almost as soon as I got out and got the stroller, I hear ‘Assalamu alaykum’ from a sister walking by. It calmed my nerves so much to know there was another muslim woman there.

So we walk in and go past all the people still on line for tickets, so I think some were staring at my niqab and others were staring wondering if we were cutting them. Lol. We get to the bleachers and uhhh there’s no seats anywhere in sight. So as I stand there surveying the room for seats, many people were sitting and surveying me. So the announcer says the show can’t start until everyone is sitting, so people need to move over to make room for others. Some people move, but being that I have a stroller, I have to be on the end and pretty much in the first couple rows. A woman comes over and says we can come seat by her. To my horror, the seat is all the way on the other side of the room. So I take a deep breath and my family and I start to walk. Although my heart is beating fast and my mind is racing, I hold my head up and walk with confidence. We get there and the people in the row above where the seats are, are looking at me like ‘i hope you’re not sitting here’. Then this lady and her two kids try to slide into our seats. She couldn’t see it but my eyebrows were raised as high as they could be as I thought to myself, ‘I know she aint trying to take our seats’, but then the lady who offered us the seats said, “No they’re seating there.”

Then the show began. Fire breathing, balancing acts, girls twirling through the air and dancing with lots of hula hoops, a clown, and plenty of flips. It was very nice. During the intermission, my daughter desperately had to use the bathroom. I marched through the crowds of people to get there with almost everyone gawking along the way. I was thinking, ‘no, I’m not the entertainment for the intermission. The ponies are.’ On our way out the bathroom I swung the door open and heard “OW”, but he laughed it off, so I said sorry and laughed back to my seat. A few more flips and ohs and ahs and the show was over.

Good time and good laughs.