I have so many things going through my mind today. First off, I was riding home from my kids’ school thinking about how I would like for my son’s teacher to become my husband’s second wife. WHAT? Although polygyny is a muslim man’s right, I struggle with the idea of sharing my husband. So, thinking about this almost half of my trip home was quite surprising to me. She just seems like she would be a great fit for our family. I’ve been making du’a to correct my attitude towards polygyny, so I feel this is an answer to that. Allah knows best.
Then I got on the phone with my friend later and she asked why I put hijab on my 6 year old daughter. I basically explained that practice becomes habit. If she feels comfortable in hijab now, it won’t be a problem for her to wear it when it becomes obligatory for her. My daughter feels the hijab is beautiful and knows that wearing dresses and beautifying yourself is for indoors. I told my friend that waiting until your daughter is 14 or 16 and then telling her to cover just leaves the door open for shaytan to whisper to them about how they’ve been uncovered this long, why cover now? She basically was telling me that she didn’t agree and that women in her family wore hijab when they were younger and then rebelled and didn’t cover when they left home because they felt “caged” having to cover all those years. I told her I’m not forcing my daughter to wear it, rather I have explained to her that this is the dress Allah has ordained for the muslim women and it’s an honor to wear it. I think explaining the beauty and virtue of it makes the child want to wear it and not feel forced to wear it.
Then we got into the subject of homosexuality. I bought up how some people say you’re born gay. Obviously, this isn’t true. But she kind of felt it was. She had a gay step- brother and said he was always flamboyant, so this gave her reason to believe this may be true, but was conflicted on the subject as a muslim. I said they’re not born this way, but have a grave sickness that they, unfortunately, give into. Gays are giving into a sick thought planted by shaytan. Men and women are naturally inclined to one another. Duhhhh.
Crazy day. Crazy convo.